The loo brouhaha
Among the many issues posed by the wider acceptance of rights of transsexual persons is that of the gender-segregated bathroom, and who goes where.
I have been thinking about this for some time, ever since some of our favourite restaurants did away with men's and women's bathrooms in favour of one (single occupancy) room. I always felt a slight squeam factor in those, as the previous occupant all too often did not "aim to please". Sure, I've been in some messy stalls in women's bathrooms, but by and large, women can be counted on to operate within the confines of the porcelain.
Once a person chooses which door she'll push, based on how she identifies, the important thing is to conduct ones' self efficiently and neatly. I have seen a real erosion in this civility, with litter (and worse) left on the seat and floor, and even deliberate vandalism that requires a cleaning crew.
I've read that some women fear men will enter under the guise of being trans, but are actually male voyeurs. Some of the persons I have met at the sink have been nearly impossible to identify as male or female, but they have conducted themselves entirely appropriately. (And we know that abuse and violence are overwhelmingly committed against the trans person.)
The person in transition cannot always find a single-use facility, but perhaps, in the early stage where she might still be read as a male, she could go in to a multiple-use bathroom with a woman friend. A practical solution would be for her say, "I'm a woman, don't worry!" but that may be asking a lot.
In Canada, a forthcoming government bill will add gender identity as a prohibited ground for discrimination under the Canadian Human Rights Act, and trans persons will be protected against hate speech under the Criminal Code. Though in the past a similar bill was defeated in the Senate, Prime Minister Justin Trudeau said, "We can and should do more", and politicians formerly against have changed their position.
As we find ways to integrate persons formerly forced to live in shadow, we must thoughtfully dismantle barrier after barrier. You could say it's a process of elimination.
I have been thinking about this for some time, ever since some of our favourite restaurants did away with men's and women's bathrooms in favour of one (single occupancy) room. I always felt a slight squeam factor in those, as the previous occupant all too often did not "aim to please". Sure, I've been in some messy stalls in women's bathrooms, but by and large, women can be counted on to operate within the confines of the porcelain.
Once a person chooses which door she'll push, based on how she identifies, the important thing is to conduct ones' self efficiently and neatly. I have seen a real erosion in this civility, with litter (and worse) left on the seat and floor, and even deliberate vandalism that requires a cleaning crew.
I've read that some women fear men will enter under the guise of being trans, but are actually male voyeurs. Some of the persons I have met at the sink have been nearly impossible to identify as male or female, but they have conducted themselves entirely appropriately. (And we know that abuse and violence are overwhelmingly committed against the trans person.)
The person in transition cannot always find a single-use facility, but perhaps, in the early stage where she might still be read as a male, she could go in to a multiple-use bathroom with a woman friend. A practical solution would be for her say, "I'm a woman, don't worry!" but that may be asking a lot.
In Canada, a forthcoming government bill will add gender identity as a prohibited ground for discrimination under the Canadian Human Rights Act, and trans persons will be protected against hate speech under the Criminal Code. Though in the past a similar bill was defeated in the Senate, Prime Minister Justin Trudeau said, "We can and should do more", and politicians formerly against have changed their position.
As we find ways to integrate persons formerly forced to live in shadow, we must thoughtfully dismantle barrier after barrier. You could say it's a process of elimination.
Comments
And yes, I can't understand why or how people can create/leave the mess they do in public washrooms. So much more a concern than the non-issue (I wish!) of seeing a face whose (real?) gender you can't pin down peering into the mirror beside you. A campaign to keep our public washrooms clean would be so much better a place to put the energies of those who want to control any disruption in their ordered lives...
Thanks for posting on this. I have a loved one this affects, and have taught numerous students who struggle, brave souls, with this reality every time they need to use a toilet between classes. Luckily, university campuses (in Canada at least) are pretty enlightened in this area.
In general, access to public toilets is a very important issue for many people; the transgendered face particular problems (here as everywhere) because of prejudice; people with bladder or intestinal problems and simply pregnant women or some older people have to "go" more often.
Here is an Ottawa campaign for a network of public toilets: https://ottawapublictoilets.ca/author/gottagocampaign/
lagatta: I've seen the JT facilities but have not used one yet. Thanks for expanding the case, because plenty of people need access. The issue with trans persons is, I think, veiled discrimination and fear of anyone "different". I've seen pregnant women whisked to the head of a line, the kind that typically forms at theatre intermission- but haven't seen it yet for an older person.
I second the need for users to take more care of the facilities they use.
Unknown: I wonder about that too. Do we all get chipped, so our biodata can be scanned? And I used to think washroom attendants supplied hairspray or perfume.
Here's an realistic short article about what someone could get from a visit to any bathroom:
http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/what-can-you-catch-in-restrooms
Children should be accompanied to bathrooms (unless we're talking about at school, which is another can of worms, isn't it?).
Thanks for reminding me that someone, sometime, might have a truly urgent need, and if I can, it would be a kindness to let them go ahead.
une femme: Members of some religious denominations are appalled at unisex bathrooms because they believe they will be exposed to "unclean" women. Some males who will not use any unisex bathroom because of that possibility. They are opposed to a trans male in the M bathroom for the same reason.
I completely agree about change tables! I also miss the old "ladies' lounge" where a woman could nurse, sit on a comfortable chair to rest tired feet or chat with a friend, or freshen makeup at a pretty vanity. Department store "ladies' rooms" are now tiled, institutional spaces.
http://video.search.yahoo.com/video/play;_ylt=A0LEV7iz3k5XXzkAGbJjmolQ;_ylu=X3oDMTBsa3ZzMnBvBHNlYwNzYwRjb2xvA2JmMQR2dGlkAw--?p=liberal+redneck&tnr=21&vid=F689B0C98D4565B74DD0F689B0C98D4565B74DD0&l=135&turl=http%3A%2F%2Fts1.mm.bing.net%2Fth%3Fid%3DOVP.V68195151b62b2dcabd600dca0537a146%26pid%3D15.1&sigi=12b7gidv5&rurl=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DqjGv6exoKkw&sigr=11bg8su8g&tt=b&tit=Liberal+Redneck+-+American+Family+Association+Boycotts+Target&sigt=11th78pg9&back=http%3A%2F%2Fus.yhs4.search.yahoo.com%2Fyhs%2Fsearch%3Fp%3Dliberal%2Bredneck%26fr%3Dgoodsearch-yhsif%26param1%3D940006787%26ei%3DUTF-8&sigb=13a09ep0m
You can't imagine how much time this took and how many issues had to be addressed!
Jane
As long as individuals go into restroom stalls and close the door, I don't understand the problem. I would think shower rooms would be the greater issue and source of embarrassment. I don't know how schools are built now, but 50 years ago the boys' locker room at my school had an open shower room that was a huge source of embarrassment for any boy who felt himself slightly different for any real or imagined reason. The flimsy curtains on the girls' shower stalls and open changing areas did nothing to protect a girl's modesty. I wonder how much that has changed.
As for UTIs, my urologist has found that his patients with UTIs have often just returned from travel where airline schedules have caused delays in getting to a restroom. UTIs are also frequently developed by first year elementary school teachers who haven't figured out how to squeeze in a restroom break for themselves.
So there should be no surprise that individuals who feel uncomfortable using public restrooms would develop UTIs.