Style: Graham Street shows how to give a damn

Recently, when we considered the elevation of Frump Style, several readers noted it is the province of the young, because that's the time of life for experimentation—but also, has adherents much later in life.

Leslie said, "I agree that it tends to pool around the poles of being; very young and very old, when comfort and Idontgiveadamn tend to dictate choices." 

As I took my habitual dawn walk in Idon'tgiveadamn exercise gear, I wondered, How does it start? Does vanity move from the driver's seat to the back, and eventually to the trunk? How much of Idon'tgiveadamn is tied to physical and mental health, and the everyday energy dips of ageing?

Whatever the cause, the antidote—if one wishes—is a generous serving of inspiration.

Here is the photo that I returned to while pondering Leslie's comment: a shot of Sue Graham. Her daughter, Hannah Macleod, founded the site Graham Street, to present, as Macleod says, pieces that catch her eye, especially for women past age thirty. (Sue Graham is in her sixties.)

I thought, "Now there's a vital, interesting-looking woman. I'd like to meet her." It was not just the clothes as much as the animation and spirit in her expression. 


And yet, she is wearing several Frump-favoured items: maryjanes, a loose dress! When I looked at more photos, I saw that the vitality and quality of Sue Graham's outfits instead amplified her joie de vivre:
 



Left: Note the baroque pearl earrings! The pattern of the scarf against the stripes, the tonal variation: this is the antithesis of moth-eaten resignation. (It helps to have a daughter who is a professional stylist.)

Top right: Whether a midi-length dress is your proportion or not, the pattern mix is the lesson. 

Bottom: I especially enjoy the mother/daughter shots; each looking terrific yet comfortable. Colour is always at hand, not in the obvious "pop", but as a subtler waft.  

Much of the success of Sue Graham's clothes is down to this refined colour sense. Look at the accord of blue and green in this shot!



Here are ideas to use, even if you would change the scale, prefer your hair long, or wouldn't want a jumpsuit. Sue Graham has not been an eager model; Hannah Macleod says she had to be "dragged kicking and screaming" to shoots—and let's be thankful she has agreed.

Some pieces shown are pricey (e.g. Toast, YMC); others are mid-range, like Cos. You can hunt for similar at thrifts and consignments. I've found a few since I took that three-new-items-a-year pledge. I'll show them in January; for now, just take heart that it can be done.   

I'm fan and ev-Grahamgelist, not just because I admire how Sue Graham dresses, but because Graham St. delivers an alternative to blah, generic (my spell checker keeps correcting to "geriatric") attire and the dreadful "wearable art" grown women are advised will make them look "modern" or "interesting". 

You know it's coming: pearls are kryptonite to dontgiveadamn:


This blog and Instagram account, like Alyson Walsh's excellent That's Not My Age, includes links, tips and industry knowledge. Collaborations often promote small, local businesses, and seem to be carefully-selected, because the aesthetic is consistent.  This isn't a flog-blog.

Facing a long winter, depending on that black v-neck and dark jeans, I need a bit of coaxing. It's all there in my closet; the Graham St. team reminds me to revere and revive it. As Hannah Macleod says, "I'm a firm believer that it's not so much about what you wear, but how you wear it."

(All photos retrieved from the Graham St. site.)

PS. What if you're just too low to make the effort? A big mitten clap to stylist Bridgette Raes for her timely post "Clothing Won't Make It Better But It Will Help". Though written for women going in to work, her ideas also encourage anyone having an off day.


 


Comments

Bobn said…
Hi. I live at the other side of the Atlantic and I always love your well thought out posts. Always so interesting and informative.
In today’s post the lady you featured looks so well. I like her colours and choice of shapes. I don’t like clothes with very and colourful designs either.
Take care. B
Leslie said…
What a find in Graham Street for interesting outfit ideas. Yes, pearls do wonders, but I was really struck by the ability of a small scarf to do the heavy lifting; to bring frump into the fabulous territory - into the Igiveadamn territory. I will often leave a large scarf at home because it is too much to deal with, but a small square is an idea worth exploring.
Duchesse said…
Bobn: Welcome to the Passage. I often source goods from Europe and occasionally Asia, sometimes only as examples.
Leslie: I’ll be looking for some, then!
Venasque said…
This site is fabulous (as are you, for all your suggestions). What a find. It's all in how you put it together isn't it?
Allison said…
The Graham Street woman has far to go to be a member of the ‘I don’t give a damn crowd’ she looks stylish and vital. Let me give you an example of good old ‘I have no more f@#ks to give’ or ‘I don’t give a damn dressing’…yesterday I had to go to the ER by ambulance. I wasn’t going in my pyjamas ( I had a few f@#ks left:) and was quickly scrambling to find warm, easy on off clothing to wear. First on a decrepit black sports bra, a very sad old fleece Columbia hoodie. Its virtues being warmth, zippered pockets and its bum covering length. We will not talk about the missing toggle on the zipper. To finish, faded fleece lined Lands End leggings that have shrunk and were raised up from the laundry. Dirty laundry. I scraped my unclean hair back into a twist held with a cheapo clip no lipstick. To finish, shearling slippers, the real deal because fake shearling makes my feet sweat.
I have a closet bursting with cashmere sweaters, designer boots and elegant trousers, nice lounge wear and this was all I could manage?? Thirty,forty,fifty year old me would have made an attempt at looking somewhat presentable. All bets off at 69.
In my defence I had a raging fever ( dx pneumonia) and probably not thinking straight. In my life I wouldn’t even go out into my backyard in that outfit, but I truly didn’t give a damn. Even on my worst days when going out I make an attempt with a scarf, lipstick, thought out jewelry etc. ‘I don’t give a damn’ is not territory I wish to cross into again anytime soon.
Maggie said…
I'm a frequent reader of your blog but this may be my first comment. What a fabulous post! Thanks for providing some great new--to me-- blogs and instagram accounts to follow. I just turned seventy and am trying to figure out how to avoid frumpiness in this new decade.
Laura J said…
Timely encouragement as I am recuperating from a broken leg and realize I’ve nothing to wear to cope with the injured area but I’ll work on attitude, posture and at least thinking of an outfit that goes beyond the drifting dressing gown ….
Duchesse said…
Laura J: Oh no! I am so sorry to hear that! The clothes don't matter when you're laid up, and there are so many adaptations that have to be made.

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