tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post2878487842319677187..comments2024-03-28T03:40:29.423-04:00Comments on Passage des Perles: Cheer, complaint and seasonal affectDuchessehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-53663735425593902112009-07-08T16:05:01.447-04:002009-07-08T16:05:01.447-04:00Duchesse, I guess we'll have to agree to parti...Duchesse, I guess we'll have to agree to partially disagree about this one. Partially, because indeed I broke off with a friend who was always whingy, negative and self-obsessed and tired me (and other former friends) to wits' end. Tiresome indeed. But I can't abide the American-style "Positive Thinking" that infests Oprah and all the Self-Help cults.lagatta à montréalhttp://www.lemab.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-52980309165599514132009-07-08T11:09:59.328-04:002009-07-08T11:09:59.328-04:00Frugal: I recommend the book, if you really want t...Frugal: I recommend the book, if you really want to address it.<br /><br />lagatta: An art only to the 'artist'; I'm quite bored by others' whinging.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-36385797200896668512009-07-08T10:33:46.598-04:002009-07-08T10:33:46.598-04:00Must work on this. My husband is always accusing m...Must work on this. My husband is always accusing me of complaining. I like to think I'm merely describing a bad situation: I'm not expecting a solution, just an acknowledgment that what I perceive is true. Still, I'm working on my (in-born?) lugubrious nature.Frugal Scholarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12696815672500452503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-5374943184707035582009-07-08T03:12:42.807-04:002009-07-08T03:12:42.807-04:00Being happy doesn't meant that everything is p...Being happy doesn't meant that everything is perfect. It does mean that you've chosen to look beyond the imperfections.toAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-5775623590415159002009-07-07T08:16:00.561-04:002009-07-07T08:16:00.561-04:00What a fabulous and timely post. I realized this ...What a fabulous and timely post. I realized this a long time ago, but experience setbacks occasionally, but I try to stop myself.<br /><br />Although the darkness is dreary, I love the cooler summer weather, and I found that the winter wasn't so bad once I stopped thinking it was terrible.Mardelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04850551308931710502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-54291127683785532582009-07-07T07:18:37.653-04:002009-07-07T07:18:37.653-04:00Moi j'aime bien râler - c'est un art!
I ...Moi j'aime bien râler - c'est un art! <br /><br />I know what you mean about negative people, but I don't find complaining necessarily makes one a grump. And how can any sane person NOT complain about our horrific winters?<br /><br />I have met refugees from war zones such as Salvador, who are very grateful to be here but who still get utterly miserable during our endless winters. Isn't that physiological? Not just forlorn Aboriginal communities or beaten-down Russians are sad in the winter, so are well-fed Swedes and Norwegians. <br /><br />You have to complain with a laugh, and commiserating, as a form of solidarity. Not make others feel miserable. Subtle distinction.lagatta à montréalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-29359401203122407782009-07-07T02:26:13.618-04:002009-07-07T02:26:13.618-04:00so I'm guessing you don't have the box set...so I'm guessing you don't have the box set of DVDS Grumpy Old Men and Grumpy Old Women!Imogen Lamport, AICI CIPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16796095692232856223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-65012306685925244692009-07-07T01:01:26.349-04:002009-07-07T01:01:26.349-04:00Wow...what a sweet place you have....guess i'm...Wow...what a sweet place you have....guess i'm part of the older fifty crowd...and proud of it.<br /><br />LOVE what you're expressing here. <br /><br />lylahLylah Lednerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04436702227303638509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-89224476130767228682009-07-07T00:43:44.391-04:002009-07-07T00:43:44.391-04:00Living in a house with 2 fireplaces, a cosy librar...Living in a house with 2 fireplaces, a cosy library and a well stocked wine-cellar (well, a corner of the basement with a dozen or so cases) makes Toronto winters a joy. Now I'm trying to find ways to make the (usually) muggy months of July and August a little less... limp.<br /><br />I love your attitude, Duchesse. We can't change the weather, but we can certainly find ways to actually each season.s.https://www.blogger.com/profile/04741062569246094417noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-91870255829171967342009-07-07T00:01:16.512-04:002009-07-07T00:01:16.512-04:00Reply to Duchesse: I´m sure that the northern posi...Reply to Duchesse: I´m sure that the northern position and the long, dark season without sunshine affects our mood. My toes have been frozen so often in the winter that it is impossible for me to wear a nice pair of boots, so I´m definitely not looking forward to the colder season.mettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13732534795009852825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-6425223732476266302009-07-06T15:11:13.739-04:002009-07-06T15:11:13.739-04:00Love the new picture!
Your lack of complaining is...Love the new picture!<br /><br />Your lack of complaining is one of the marvellous, astonishing things I love about you. I fight negativity all the time having been well trained in fault finding. I wish I were as good at the cheerful word as you and sometimes I just need someone to say "poor baby".diverchichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07753507927794435960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-73286709398354551842009-07-06T14:21:49.064-04:002009-07-06T14:21:49.064-04:00doll: Reminds me of a friend who used to say, '...doll: Reminds me of a friend who used to say, 'I woke up, I ate, I am in a free country, the rest is gravy."Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-1923933355489070252009-07-06T14:20:04.335-04:002009-07-06T14:20:04.335-04:00Northmoon: "what I pay attention to" is ...Northmoon: "what I pay attention to" is essential for me, too.<br />metscan: I wonder if those of us in northern countries,with such short, precious summers, are prone to this.<br /><br />Pseu: I'm increasingly impatient with chronic complainers, and try to to ask them 'what would you like to DO about that"?Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-67473864983169250862009-07-06T14:19:58.587-04:002009-07-06T14:19:58.587-04:00I love this. A long time ago a friend told me that...I love this. A long time ago a friend told me that she "chooses to be happy." When I got to a place where I actually understood what she was saying, it a monumental discovery for me and it started me on the road to changing my life. Thanks for such a great reminder of this very important concept!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-57411584169203043752009-07-06T13:32:25.070-04:002009-07-06T13:32:25.070-04:00Great post! I've come to the same conclusion a...Great post! I've come to the same conclusion as well.NancyDaQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00609215745927535353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-9191900056444889982009-07-06T13:16:52.830-04:002009-07-06T13:16:52.830-04:00Was it Will Rogers who said "everyone complai...Was it Will Rogers who said "everyone complains about the weather but nobody does anything about it"?<br /><br />Back in my twenties, I was exposed to the idea that thoughts become self-perpetuating and will manifest results, and that we ultimately control our own thoughts. That doesn't mean we can control everything that happens in life, but it does mean that we can control how we deal with it. Understanding this and putting it into practice really changed my life. I still complain too much sometimes, but try to catch myself and stop, and don't have much tolerance for those who complain endlessly when there are outlets available to them.Susan Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005855250089328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-79200413916164642012009-07-06T12:28:14.184-04:002009-07-06T12:28:14.184-04:00What a coincidence of timing, this post of your´s ...What a coincidence of timing, this post of your´s Duchesse! Just the past two days I have had the feeling that summer is over. We had such a hot week, during which we had our hay harvested,and now that it´s over, I feel like everything is over. The weather cooled quite a lot too. When I told one of my friends how I felt, she too took the same attitude as you did. But I feel that I´m not really complaining, this happens nearly every year. A big task gets done and there I am, empty handed. I will get past this. And I wouldn´t even mention the cool soup ;).mettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13732534795009852825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-83213260007592586252009-07-06T11:24:51.652-04:002009-07-06T11:24:51.652-04:00Thank you for a great reminder that I am responsib...Thank you for a great reminder that I am responsible for my mood. There will always be things in my life I can complain about, and there will always be things I can enjoy and be thankful for. How my day goes depends a great deal on which ones I choose to pay attention to.Northmoonnoreply@blogger.com