tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post1650375634801624415..comments2024-03-28T03:40:29.423-04:00Comments on Passage des Perles: There will be gifts, part twoDuchessehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-17438286659598220682008-07-29T07:56:00.000-04:002008-07-29T07:56:00.000-04:00Giftex: It seems you place responsibility on the ...Giftex: It seems you place responsibility on the receiver who "should be light hearted enough in realizing their playful tone." <BR/><BR/><BR/>I appreciate this post because it describes a rationale for gag gifts: "Making a party 'that much funnier'". <BR/><BR/>If that is one's reason for giving a gift, it's a very different goal (and resulting shopping trip) than that of celebrating, honouring and delighting the recipient.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-86420726340785857202008-07-29T03:54:00.000-04:002008-07-29T03:54:00.000-04:00Gag gifts can be a lot of fun for both giver and r...Gag gifts can be a lot of fun for both giver and receiver. They are an excellent idea for making a home or office festive party that much funnier. Laughter that they generate is always a great return gift without you asking for it. But remember that gag gifts are more for fun and the receiver should be light-hearted enough in realizing their playful tone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-51061125817776293082008-07-02T11:26:00.000-04:002008-07-02T11:26:00.000-04:00Pseu: The spontaneous gift is the BEST! Next to th...Pseu: The spontaneous gift is the BEST! Next to that I like birthday gifts (because it's not a commercial, legislated day) or anniversaries of all sorts. <BR/><BR/>I believe gifting, like cooking, can be learned. Am really prejudiced: IMO a man who is an indifferent gift giver is not likely to be able to give of himself, either.<BR/><BR/>I called a GFs BF to ask him to peek in her dressing table and tell me what perfume she was wearing these days. HE REFUSED to walk 80 feet and look- I even said he could 'get back to me'. I took this as a metaphor for what he was willing to do for her, and I stand by it.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-71958603981330794802008-07-01T23:22:00.000-04:002008-07-01T23:22:00.000-04:00This is a wonderful series, but makes me realize t...This is a wonderful series, but makes me realize that I was born into a family of lousy gift-givers and married into another one, so much so that we don't do much gifting either of my families anymore. We do a lot of charity donations in each others' names around the holidays, which seems to be a relief for all concerned. When it comes to structured gift giving (birthdays, holidays) I generally suck as well, usually because I just don't have the time to do the kind of shopping that excellent personal gift giving requires. I try to make up for that with being quite adept at the spontaneous gift, seeing something that I know someone will LOVE and giving it to them just because.<BR/><BR/>I've come to expect most gifts I receive to disappoint, and am surprised and thrilled when they don't.Susan Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16005855250089328310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-35187829465052108272008-07-01T14:32:00.000-04:002008-07-01T14:32:00.000-04:00Nancy: Wedding gifts are a bear and the pressure i...Nancy: Wedding gifts are a bear and the pressure is intense- admit I default to what they registered for. Oh I would LOVE a poem or song.<BR/><BR/>ma: School for the Gifted Gifter? Yes anyone can learn; men start from farther back in my experience. <BR/><BR/>kmkat: When he was about six, my son Jules gave a boy a marble he loved so much he wept as he presented it. Yes, a life skill.Duchessehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09986153653120526776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-80004277492139759592008-07-01T11:31:00.000-04:002008-07-01T11:31:00.000-04:00I am loving this series. It should be part of the ...I am loving this series. It should be part of the Life Skills curriculum in high school, right in there with balancing one's checkbook and how to drive a stick shift.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-29190034413861085202008-07-01T11:28:00.000-04:002008-07-01T11:28:00.000-04:00You are doing a wonderful job of covering the elem...You are doing a wonderful job of covering the elements of gift-giving -- important work! I think it's helpful to realize that givers lacking good instincts can nonetheless learn. In fact, I'd say that bothering to learn is the first step because giving well is really about caring and trying just a little bit harder rather than just crossing something off a list.materfamiliashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16062766947897513369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2872918251244874644.post-64773962701243359162008-07-01T10:46:00.000-04:002008-07-01T10:46:00.000-04:00Marvelous series! Can't wait for Part 3.I am known...Marvelous series! Can't wait for Part 3.<BR/><BR/>I am known among my friends as a thoughtful and creative gift-giver, with one glaring exception: wedding gifts. For some reason it's much more than twice as hard to buy gifts for a couple as it is to buy for one person. I generally relent and go to the damn wedding registry and order the Le Creuset casserole or whatever. <BR/><BR/>Absent nuptial pressure, I love to give unique and literally priceless gifts only I can give. In my case--I'm a writer--I often give my nearest and dearest a poem, a rhyming toast, or a song parody.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com