Blue Jasmine, Blanchett and bag lady fear
Lisa Schwarzbaum |
Is that your fear, too? You would not be alone.
Schwarzbaum includes these stats:
"...In March, a 2013 survey on women, money and power, issued by the Allianz Life Insurance Company of North America, made headlines with its findings that nearly half of all American women fear becoming bag ladies –yes, the survey actually used that phrase–including 27 percent with household earnings of more than $200,000 a year. And the worry is widespread: 56 percent among single women, 54 percent divorced, 47 percent widowed and 43 percent married."
Schwarzbaum discusses Woody Allen's "Blue Jasmine", which I saw. I thought the film landed a few good jabs about status and culture, but lacked subtlety. I mean, when Alec Baldwin enters as the swindler/philanderer husband, his trademarked smirky charm reeking like Italian aftershave, what do you think is going to happen?
And you can never quite forget that that's Cate Blanchett guzzling Stoly and Xanax; women who look like her–and are not even close to old age–generally get second acts.
Allen's broadly-drawn Jasmine, unhinged in Hermès, is compelling but uncommon; most days, I pass women picking through discards in the market bins, scavenging recyclables, not a Kelly bag in sight.
Schwarzbaum's article segues into a discussion of who might make the definitive bag-lady film; the film critic in her overcomes the social critic.
In real life, I'm a harpy with young women. I have a bias toward education that yields a way to make a living for yourself. The pursuit of edifying but non-remunerative subjects is, for me, either your minor, an area for self-study or a good way to spend a sizeable inheritance. "Get someting under yourself, girl" is my mantra.
With women in co-habition situations, I entreat them (this usually involves a glass or two of wine) to know the family law for their jurisdiction. Should they end, common-law unions distribute assets differently than marriage, even if my friend in love thinks "it's the same thing".
Single mature women face pointed questions if they float plans for major career change ("Way less money but so fulfilling!"), and I view cashing in registered retirement savings in order to fund a trip to Maui with the same level of horror as I'd accord a child abduction.
Photo: Aginginplace.com |
Beyond that, she should work on social change projects (not only vote), in areas she cares about, for example, health care, social security and labour law. (The growing precarity of employment, with its "freelance gigs and short-term work" seems automatically accepted by Schwarzbaum as the new normal.)
And despite the issues with charities, let's support the responsible agencies who help the indigent–put our arms around women struggling to survive.
Maybe "Blue Jasmine" will nudge a few complacent persons, but I think most of us know the score: financial security is a much harder game as the years roll by.
What do you think women need to do to bag-proof ourselves?
Comments
The US healthcare situation: well, we all know this is the second most common cause of bankruptcy here. I hope the new structure will help with some of this, but it does not address excess cost.
Young women need all the advice we can give them, speaking as mum to 2 young ladies in their 20's. They managed to get the no credit card balance,ever, lesson in college, but real life is,well, expensive. They both have IRA's started when they had teen jobs and can see how much they--painlessly--accumulated. But I worry about their futures more than I do mine.
Unfortunately, a decent income isn't enough. Women also need to put in the time and effort to figure out how to manage and invest their money. I started putting away money in an RSP (Retirement Savings Plan) in my 20s and am so thankful I did.
Maybe I'm just naturally financially oriented but I'm amazed and worried by the number of women who don't seem interested in the most basic financial management information such as what interest rate their credit card charges or if they are paying a fee for their bank account. Educating yourself about money is a survival skill, how do we get this across when so many find it boring and dull or too confusing.
And, of course we're incredibly fortunate to have medicare here in Canada.
Lane: Hoping that the new US healthcare structure is adopted by the vast majority of the currently uninsure. I have lived in both systems and am disturbed by the deliberate misinformation out there.
LauraH: There have been some good initiatives to educate young people (not just women) via secondary school curriculum. And then Paris Hilton comes along.
In order to drive change, I find it useful to make a distinction between "fortune" and political policy. Canada's health care system is the result of political policy beginning in 1940s, and with some changes, contining to the present. The result is that we feel fortunate, and despite that fortune must continually asking ourselves what we can continue to pay for.
Louise; What else can you do?
I've worked for 40 years with people with all sorts of degrees, some a natural match for a job, others with very odd backgrounds. It is not all about the degree; the person's work ethic, personality, focus and determination have a great deal to do with finding the right job.
Today I am very anxious and stressed but then I have been for 40 odd years really.
I would love to be able to go back and find out what I was supposed to be, instead I a stuck in mind numbing dead end part time jobs.
I see women digging in the waste receptacles for bottles and surprisingly they are not poorly dressed. It does give one an opportunity to pause for thought.
Nothing is ever certain and I think we could all be at risk if things went awry. I feel this even more so since retiring. I have become much more frugal and think twice now before purchasing the non essentials.
I agree that you can't completely fool-proof yourself against poverty. Good financial management and living below your means - something I've embraced only in the last 5 or 6 years - are key. Also, being open to educating yourself for the jobs that DO exist.
Looking around me in Vancouver, one thing I find quite horrifying is the huge mortgages that people are taking on. I bought a condo a number of years ago that I could afford and I've almost paid it off. People are not looking at what they can afford long term, they're looking at the best house the bank will finance for them. So many 40-somethings with $400k mortgages for homes bought at the top of the market and the only real collateral being their precarious jobs. Will not end well.
Really enjoy your blog!
Anonymous: Jobs exist. They do not, however, exist to delight and amaze us; it is a remarkable career that achieves that level, year in an out. I have a rather utilitarian view of life. So for you, big hug and a bound set of Suze Orman ;)
Chicatanyage: Pensions everywhere are under attack. Expect to see return of multigenerational housing- not just the young adult living with parent, but parents bunking in with adult children.
Judy: Hey, we saw that movie together! MIss you.
http://uniondefait.ca/en/
The rights of the partner vary by province; I have found a number of very well-written guides posted on the internet. PEI's is especially through: http://www.gov.pe.ca/photos/original/moving_on_new.pdf
Susan: There are levels of bad-news scenarios. I'm grateful that I have seen enough friends and acquaintances bounce up and down a few times, to witness their resilience and resolve. The stores that came out of the last recession, especially for older workers, are especially chilling.
Susan P, people who work freelance often don't have the means to "save aggressively", whatever our age.
Another problem,of course is structural, with needs for a free-standing single-family home and a car, as many if not most places in North America don't provide more economical and ecological alternatives.
Technically, unions libres in Québec are not "common law", as we don't have common law but French-based civil law. Criminal law is British-based.
My husband & I both started out with not much beyond an education, but we were smart AND lucky, so now at 56 I am retired and pretty well set for the future, barring worldwide economic collapse! We are putting two girls through college; one is a physics major, one is chemistry. I told them they could not major in anything like Women's Studies, which is a fine subject but what on earth job can you get with it, other than to teach it? Hopeful that both will get decent jobs, because they've also been taught to be financially independent (marry someone because you want to, not because you have to).
Since I'm retired, no longer an elder-caretaker, and just this month an empty-nester, I checked out a volunteer opportunity just today. It's an organization called Dress For Success, which provides interview-appropriate suits for unemployed women. I toured the facility today (after donating several items of clothing). Women referred to the program come in and "shop" the donated items, choosing an interview suit, blouse, shoes, etc. When they get a job, they can come back for a second suit. The organization also offers counseling on interview skills, health and fitness, and financial literacy. As a fashion fan AND an MBA, I am going to volunteer to help the clients select outfits as well as to help with the financial literacy training. If you are interested in maybe volunteering, i know there are branches of this group in several cities.
---Jill Ann
Anon@7:02: I faced a son's annoyance when I refused to fund a major that has been proven questionable as an entrée to employment. (Any anthro majors out there, beat me up now.) The field he chose is a cousin, but leads to better employment prospects, and he loves it.
Anon@7:20: Impressive! And just so you feel fine about checking out fashion blogs: building your eye will help you avoid costly mistakes :)
Jill Ann: The word 'empowerment' has been overused, but truly I see you and your husband are empowering your daughters. And thanks for the mention of Dress for Success. I have contributed to a similar organization here for immigrant women. Good cause and one day you may see a woman at her job in your suit or briefcase!
But that quibble doesn't mean I don't applaud much of what you say here -- and the comments once again constitute a great conversation about an important topic. Thanks!
For many years, I worked with managers of a large book and music retailer. Store managers would joke about their useless degrees, but what was no joke was the debt they were working to clear.
My daughters (and my son) came out of their degrees with very little, if any, debt. We covered tuition OR helped with living costs and they contributed by working part-time, minimized costs (most of them, for some/most of their courses) by going to our local Uni (where I teach) so they could live at home. In itself, I think that by clearly communicating our fear/abhorrence of Student Debt probably set some pretty good life patterns. I know some have no choice, but I suspect more have choices they haven't fully considered. . . .
My means are fortunately very slight, as I have a sunny flat in a housing co-operative in a neighbourhood with an extremely high walkability score (well, it is Duchesse's!). I can eat very nutritious and tasty food for little with the market a few minutes' walk away. And I save a lot when I'm working. My clients always give me high praise, but I'm not very good at selling myself - shy. The problem was that several of my clients folded in the past couple of years. Oh, I'm plugging away at it, but feel like a bit of a whore.
I wasn't complaining; I'm ok. Just discussing the current situation, which is scary for friends with kids or other uncompressible expenses. I did also point out structural problems in terms of what many need, due to bad urban and social planning. That too can be improved.
I worry constantly about young people, everyone actually. I'm a firm believer in independence, in working hard, in saving first and foremost, and living below your means. Although I have splurged occasionally and have not always been frugal, I've always aggressively saved and invested. I also figured out pretty early on that to make the most of that hard work, and those savings, I had to learn as much as I could about managing money and wise investing.
Even a good education and a good career is not enough if you spend all or even most of what you make. I don't need much now, but I worry about those who are less resourceful.
My kids are lucky we can afford to send them to college so they will graduate without debt. I know their science degrees do not guarantee good jobs later, but I'm hoping it improves their chances. They have friends who are majoring in graphic design, communications, & criminal justice. For those kids (IMO), a small percentage will be very successful, & the others will probably struggle; they'll be the ones working retail. But if you find something you really love, then maybe you should go for it?
We have good friends who have one child, a daughter who is a talented artist. She was considering nursing school, but her dad convinced her to major in art instead. I can only assume that they are financially well off enough so that they can support her for quite some time! And she will probably inherit a lot someday.
---Jill Ann
I'm sort of okay because I saved hard in my forties, tho' I wonder about the cost of the possible nursing home. I REALLY worry about my daughter, 50 with no retirement savings at all, working in the arts.
I highly recommend the Myers Briggs personality test for exploring how to align your life. It's good stuff and applicable to old and young alike.
We could save a very little rest, which is melting now.
I've had nightmares about our situation.
Now we live on a very low budget, but we are happy with what he have.
So glad, we travelled a lot and enjoyed all the luxury we could afford then.
Jill Ann: WIth the prison system actually groing, I wonder if criminal justics is not a demand credential? (However maybe the jobs are fairly low level, am not knowledgable.) I have a MA in Cmmunication Arts; 40+ years ago that was a 'hot new skill' and I got all kinds of jobs probably because employers thought I could do everything from counsel addicts to write corporate policy to educate executives- and I said, sure, I can.
I would think long and hard before heading down that path today, which is not to say I'd avoid it altoghether.
Don't assume an affluent, or even just solvent, partner will be available to you throughout life. And think seriously about the implications of career and lifestyle moves. I have several friends who are facing retirement without resources and fretting about money every minute.
There is no absolute security for anyone, but taking care of yourself goes a long way toward it. And eases the financial situation for your life partner.
Don't assume an affluent, or even just solvent, partner will be available to you throughout life. And think seriously about the implications of career and lifestyle moves. I have several friends who are facing retirement without resources and fretting about money every minute.
There is no absolute security for anyone, but taking care of yourself goes a long way toward it. And eases the financial situation for your life partner.
But women younger than me see women my age trying to have "it all" and think we are doing it wrong. So many of them are making more traditional choices.
I absolutely agree that a woman needs to be able to support herself and her family. All those gorgeous and expensive weddings I attended when I was in my 20s? Close to half of them no longer together.
No bride wants to hear this, acknowlege this, or even think about it. But stuff happens, people change, people die. You have to go into life with your eyes open.
I have worked full time in reasonably well paid positions since I finished Uni and hope to continue to build a successful career.
(As a non-American I find it APPALLING that people can be financially wiped out because they were unlucky enough to get ill. Talk about kicking someone when they're down!)
Also, on degrees - I'm more of the school that it matters less what degree you do, than what skills you pick up while doing it. Almost all my friends are in totally different fields than their degrees. My sister in law is a very successful project manager with a Fine Arts degree.
AND you don't study once then never again these days. You need to keep going back and doing courses and things. I did a BA in English, then about 10 years later, a Masters in Management. I expect I'll keep learning various things formally and informally all my life.
My father in law, mother in law and Aunt are all in their 50s and 60s and completing degrees in the arts that they didn't manage to do while younger and always regretted not doing. Parents - don't blight the lives of your children by forcing them into something that's really not them.
rb: Do you read materfamilias' blog, Materfamilias Writes? She has detailed two of her children's weddings in the past two years, and I so appreciated how they were done- beautiful and joyous but not over the top, reeking of ostentation. Many young people are refusing that; there are sites dedicated to DIY or lower-cost celebrations. But the divorce stats- we can control those less.
Birdybegins:
I think the "follow your bliss/utility" polarity regarding educational credentials is like "work/stay at home with children" dilemma many women face, and a personal choice. But if you have to support yourself, you might study the more ephemeral subjects as a minor, or self-study.
Jasmine, in the film, dropped out of university- but more significantly, had and no skills (except for a nascent ability in interior design) and was not computer literate.
I am an avid proponent of lifelong learning, much of which occurs outside formal institutions, in the community, workplace, cultural institutions or with self-study.