"The pieces I now have satisfy me completely, and I hope I can hold `my horses´, and from now on only admire jewelry without an urge to buy something. I have noticed that this need to renew myself is going on with clothes, shoes, furniture, everything. Have you, Duchesse, experienced it ever?"
I'm quoting mestcan, eloquent commenter of the shifts in her life. She, you might recall, disposed of most of her jewelry, then (click link for her method) acquired one perfect pair of studs. Metscan seems in a period of renewal, but without excess.
Though maintenance is an ongoing task, I don't need or want to renew our furniture. Trying to find something Le Duc liked drove me to tears 25 years ago, when we were in our intensive nesting phase. (Shown, sofa he finally approved after five years of hunting.)
I notice a marked drop in my drive to acquire, punctuated by occasional intense bursts of desire, usually for accessories or art.
Media moguls like Moses Znaimer, head of ZoomerMedia ("zoomer" is the vital, unfogeyish boomer) are courting post-50s, typically ignored as a potential pool of consumers. Marketers say we have more time to shop and more disposable income than younger adults.
But I think that's wishful thinking. Most of my 50+ friends are not interested what C.S. Lewis described as "the American Dream: Work, Buy, Display, Repeat." The women I know are trying shed the stuff crowding their basements or closets.
And yet, I revere reinvention, woman embracing change, exiting outdated and unwanted strictures. One woman (divorced, children long grown) left a prestigious consulting job to work in an orphanage in Bosnia. Another decided, after 50, to turn her farm into a refuge for dogs rescued from war zones.
Maybe the change is more modest: joining a choir that accepts less than stellar voices, and lets you sing your heart out. Finding help with the care of an aging parent, so you can recover your patience and stamina. Orthodontics, this time for you. When in her late 60s, my friend Marcelle signed up for "Fly Fishing for Dames" and found inner peace wading Massachusetts' streams.
The other awareness that weighs against acquiring more is the realization of how much is needed by so many. While I show some fabulous jewelry on this site, I think of much good the money spent on a bauble could do directed towards medical care, clean water or lending organizations that help women in developing countries start small businesses.
This is not to say I will never buy another pair of earrings or cashmere sweater; it's not a dichotomy. But how much is enough? For me it feels like less all the time.
How about you?